This sounds like a stupid question with an obvious answer, but for all the girls who have had loser boyfriends (most of us), we know it's more difficult than it originally seems.
Well...to give the background story: I dated a guy through my last two years of high school, Nick. We were "in love," but he constantly pressured me to want to marry him when I truly wasn't ready. For 2/3 of the relationship he was stationed in another state with the Army, so it was long-distance. More-or-less it was miserable!
Finally, we broke up this July, and for some reason I was greatly upset by this. About three months later, though, I dated another guy, Josh. That fizzled, but while it was still hot, my ex contacted me, trying to get back together, and when he saw I was with someone else, he called me a slut and multiple other uncalled for things. We stayed out of contact for quite some time until about a month after Josh and I broke up. He, once again, wished to be back with me. I declined, knowing that would be a terrible decision. On the other hand, somehow I still had feelings for him...WHY??
Less than a week after I told him I wouldn't date him again (although I had hoped to be friends), he started dating some other girl. She was (is) super jealous, making him lose contact with me before they even started dating. Within less than 2 weeks, they became engaged and are getting married January 2nd (a day before what had been his and my dating anniversary :/). I [immaturely] wrote him a message on Facebook after he deleted me from his list, telling him he was making a stupid, impulsive decision. He then publically tried to make me look awful and pathetic by saying that his new engagement was the "real thing" and not "some childish fantasy being played out by 'you-know-who' [me]." Thing is...I broke our engagement (yes we had been briefly engaged after he repeatedly pressured me), and he was the one who had remained sore about it. Not me.
I am so upset with him. He blew off my friendship for a girl he hasn't even known for a month, and they are both desperate enough to get married without truly knowing each other. One could argue that it is true love, but I know it's not true, because Nick has been obsessed with marriage since the day I started dating him. He would have married me anytime I asked, and he would have at least dated me had I told him it was okay..and that would have been 3 weeks ago!! He finally found a girl who is as jealous and desperate for marriage as he is, so I imagine he is happy...at the moment.
Thing is..I know I should just forget about him. I know this. I know I can do better than him in so many ways and that I should stop worrying about anything to do with him. I don't understand why I'm still so concerned with whether or not he impulsively gets married. It's not really any of my business. I want to just not take to heart the insults he's thrown at me, but I'm not sure how to. I have a ton of friends and a busy life (full-time work and school), but I'm still upset about the whole situation. How do I get over it? How do I ignore it? I know I'm not romantically interested in him, but it's still difficult for me to understand.
Input please.
